Sunday, August 7, 2016

Hall of Fame

Saturday night in Nampa Idaho......8/6/2016 and it is 11:12 PM.   And here I am after a pretty good day...... Chris has gone to bed and I thought I'd put some things down.

First of all, if you have not read my previous post about miracles, please read it, or, at least get to the bottom of the post and click on the radio link for the James Dobson interview.  Listen carefully and you will experience a miracle. So do it!  Then after reading my story and my miracle with alcoholism, and the James Dobson link, and you are still hesitant to believe in God, well, just keep looking, and praying.  You will one day see God right in front of you.  Just open your eyes a little bigger.

It is sort of funny writing this post.  As I type in the various words, a little red, squiggly line automatically positions itself under words that are spelled wrong.  First sentence above, forth word "Nampa" is underlined.  Stupid spell check. Nampa is spelled N A M P A.  Like I said, sutpaad spall chcek.

Now, here is some more advice.  Listen carefully.  On google, enter in 'Cloverton Hallelujah on YouTube'.  It is a beautiful rendition of Leonard Cohens original Hallelujah, with different lyrics.
On the right hand side of the screen, there is a choice of 50+  Mix,  Cloverton type songs......hit that and listen to some some outstanding music.  Pay particular attention to Lindsey Stirlings version of Hallelujah.  Wow. It is also beautiful.

I watched on TV tonight the National Football Leagues class of 2016 hall of fame inductees.  With Chris also watching, we watched and listened to 4 of the inductees, and we will finish watching the rest of the inductees on Sunday.  All of their speeches were worth listening to.  All spoke of their families, and how love and support were key reasons for their success, reaching the NFL hall of fame.  They also mentioned coaches, and team mates, and church leaders, and many others, that made an impact in helping these new NFL hall of famers reach this point.  These new members are so thankful.  They all realized that they could not have done this on their own.  These inductees took the time to say thank you to these people, for their help, and support, and love.

For me, it was sort of hard to listen to.  I wondered how far I could have gone had I received the love and support of my family, in particular my dad.  You see, I, along with my two older sisters, and younger brother, basic survival is how we existed.  My dad was a self centered alcoholic and he really missed his chance at molding a future 'Hall of Famer'.

From my earliest memory, to my last day before I left for college, (probably for many years after that) my dad caused much fear, sadness, tension, misery, tears, and anger for my family, and much more.  It was not good.  All of us kids suffered the same daily (yes, daily)  routine, as did our mother.  It was so constant and direct, I think we all figured that this was normal.  It was not normal.  My dad affected all of us.  He dominated all of us with his everyday anger and selfishness.  And he never let up.  He was fueled by alcohol.  After my sisters moved out to start their new lives, my brother and I had to put up with this chaos, and we did our best to protect our mom.  My dad was not a roll model in any way.  As a father, a husband, a neighbor.  He knew it all, and it was always his way.  My poor mother.  She put up with my dad for way too long.  She should have left him.  My brother and I had many instances where we had to physically confront our dad to protect ourselves, and our mom. I often think of the various outcomes had I taken a more active roll dealing with my dad.

So, here is why I am writing tonight.......I wonder what I could have accomplished had my dad been there, supporting me, guiding me, being a roll model for me.  He was not any of that.  He was barely a dad, and I am sure as he got older he had many regrets as to his neglect of his kids. In the end, my dad missed out on many things.  And he could never get it back.  How very sad for us, but also for him.

I was a loving child.  I was a peacemaker, with my family as a young boy.  I found little league baseball and football, and was good in both of them.  I had many friends as a kid.  I liked my friends.  They liked me.  In junior and senior high school, I excelled in football and baseball, and carried both into my freshman year in college. I graduated from the University of Washington.  I was offered a prized deckhand position on a fishing boat in Alaska.  I became a very good fisherman, and was just a shade away from becoming a captain on a 125 foot Alaskan shrimp trawler.  It was at this time that Chris and I met, and now, almost 43 years later we are still laughing, and loving, with one another.  With the help and support of Chris, I started my own business, and had it for 35 years.  It was a success because of hard work and impeccable customer service.  Chris and I are now retired, and our passion today is our Christian faith (and of course, our 7 grandkids!)  We have, as our goal, to treat all people with love. With joyfulness.

So, what does all of this have to do with my dad?  It is simply to wonder where I could have ended up had my dad been a different dad.  I wonder if I could have reached the Hall of Fame?  Obviously not the NFL hall of fame, rather the kind of hall of fame all of us can strive for, and one that we can all reach.  A result achieved by the support and love of our families, especially our dads.  

A good father has one chance in life to push their kids to do their very best.  To teach their kids to give 100%.  To teach them to get up when they fall down.  You know, just the basic stuff a dad does.

My dad missed his one opportunity to teach me, my brother, and my two sisters.  His loss.  Oh well.

Hey dads......you only have one chance.

Thanks all.  TomG

PS.  Now I feel better.        

Thursday, July 28, 2016

Miracles. You Decide.

This December, 2016, will be ten years of sobriety for me.  I have told my story before, not to build me up, but to help others.  I want to help other alcoholics. With a passion.  Here is my miracle......

Very secretly, I drank for many years.  Mostly at my office where no one would see me.  Like all alcoholics, my drinking started slowly, but over time, it progressed, and took over my life. It affected my kids, my family, my business, my neighbors, strangers.  I put my wife through hell, because I was never around.  I was not a good husband.  Alcohol had taken over.  Today, Chris loves me dearly.  She did not give up on me, and for that I have prayers of thanks to God for Chris.  Every day.

Alcoholics cannot stop drinking on their own.  They need help.  I will say that again.  Alcoholics cannot stop drinking on their own.  They need help.  AA.....Alcoholics Anonymous....is the best, offering the 12 steps of AA.  Alcoholics cannot stop drinking on their own.  Ever.

I had no thoughts of stopping my drinking (not knowing at the time that it would be impossible for me to stop on my own).  And in my last year(s) of drinking, I would visit the liquor stores daily for vodka.  Lots of vodka.  I had to have it so I could function.  Very scary thinking about this.  And I was, like many alcoholics, self centered and relied on no one.  I could handle this.  For the rest of my life.  Never prayed.  Remember, I relied on no one, not even God.  But one day, something happened.

December 6, 2006, at 930 in the morning, I sat down at my desk, at work, looking out a large window, and said 'God, I need help'.  That is all I said.  And remember, alcoholics cannot stop drinking on their own.  10 AM the liquor store opens.  10 AM arrives, and I do not go. This is impossible.  All day, I did not go to the liquor store.  Again, impossible.  Thursday, I do not go to the liquor store.  Friday and I do not go to the liquor store.  I did not understand what was happening, but I did not buy vodka.  Saturday arrived, and Chris, my loving wife took me out for coffee.  I remember tears in her eyes.  We held hands for the first time in years.  I was, I think, confused. Two hours and then we headed back home.  I have been sober for 4 days.  No alcohol in my system.  Feeling pretty good. We got home, went through our front door (usually used our garage to get into the house) and there in our living room were 20 people for an intervention, for me, for my drinking.

Remember that prayer to God when I asked for help?  He answered.  He prepared me for treatment.  Physically, mentally, and spiritually.  And my daughter and family were praying every day that the intervention would work. And they were praying for me way before my little prayer.

I look back on those four days, and I truly believe that God saved me.  At the moment of my prayer, I lost all desire to drink.  Impossible.  It was a miracle.  Thank you Lord!

After I got out of treatment, I closed my business of 35 years.  I worked in public schools with young students, helping them. And I went back to my treatment center, and for 8 years, worked full time on the graveyard shift helping addicts.  The very best job I ever had.  Maybe Gods plan.  I know it was His plan. That is my miracle.

Family or friends with problem drinking?  Look into AA.  Treatment.  Do not give up.  AA has worked miracles for 83 years.  It works. It is the only way that works.  And pray.  God will answer.  I know.

Now hear a miracle!   Breaking the Silence, on Family Talk with James Dobson


click here

Thanks all, and believe in God.
Miracles happen.  Pray!    
Tom G

Thank you Lord for all that you have given me.








Sunday, July 10, 2016

BE CONFUSED, PEOPLE

Here is what we need to do as humans......My wife sent me this knowing I would like it.  I do like it and I want to give it to you.  As it says, it is for confused people.  If you are not confused, don't bother reading this.

CONFUSED ABOUT THE "CHRISTIAN RESPONSE" TO SOCIAL ISSUES?

Here's a handy reference list.

Male - Love Them
Female - Love Them
Unsure - Love Them
Gay - Love Them
Straight - Love Them
Unsure - Love them
Addict - Love Them
Sober - Love Them
Believer - Love Them
Unbeliever - Love Them
Unsure - Love them

theimperfectpasror.com

So,  get confused.  And then start to live.



Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Get Out There and Vote! After you pray!

I think we all have opinions about our politicians.....from little towns and cities, from the state level, and all the way to Washington DC.  Some politicians are very effective, regardless of the constant pressures that they navigate from all the interest groups.  They choose to fight for what is right, knowing full well they may only have they're job for one term.  They are the brave ones.  And then those other politicians.  They go where the wind blows....regardless of the promises they made to get their job. Sort of spineless people.

There are Republicans, and Democrats that fit the words above.

But here is something that really makes a statement.

CONTRIBUTIONS  TO  FEDERAL  CANDIDATES.....

In this 2016 year, to date, Planned Parenthood has contributed  $191,484.00 to 100 Democrats.
Zero dollars to Republicans.   $5000.00 to Hillary Clinton.   Zero dollars to Trump.

In 2014, Planned Parenthood contributed $585,305.00 to 149 Democrats.  $2328.00 to 1 Republican.

In 2008, Planned Parenthood contributed $3674.00 to Clinton & Obama.  Zero dollars to Republicans.

The above figures came off of the Web site Open Secrets.com.

Lots of blood money for the Democrats.   Millions and millions of babies killed in abortions.

So, who are you going to vote for?  Think about it.

Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Can't Wait For My Next BLT........

.........I am a little rusty......I just wiped out about 15 minutes of a new post I was doing by hitting the wrong buttons.  I gots me some clumsy fingers.  Oh well.

It has been almost 2 years since my last post.....brought to my attention by a loyal follower.....I just did not realize it has been that long since my last entry.  I have always liked doing posts.  Humor very important. Talking non-sense and waiting for people to respond.  Lots-o-fun.  It must be understood that my non-sense is 98.5% true stuff.  The other 1.5% is for effect and is intended for  your imagination. Fun stuff.  Dammmmmmit.

Like:  I was not the founder of Starbucks.  It was Microsoft I founded.  I did not save 38 people from a sinking boat in the Pacific ocean.  It was 37.  I have always been a guy. Well, there was that time.......forget that.  When I visited New York City, I could not believe the people.  I have never been to New York City.  Where is New York City?  East of Nampa Idaho as the big crow flies.  I can talk to most anyone I meet in my world.  Some of them are flat out weird and they love themselves.  That is OK in my mind.  I do love Broadway.  Been in 14 productions.  7 as the leading man.  2 as the leading woman. Really.  Don't believe it.

Now to other things more important.  I hope Trump can change his image.  We need a change in the White House. To say the least.  If Trump becomes our next president, I pray that he can handle the challenge and unite our country, and change the world.  Please pray for this.  Please pray for our next president.

Abortion.  Please pray for those involved in abortion.  The clinics.  The employees.  The doctors.  The mothers.  The babies.  Praying is the only thing we can do.   It is working.

Trangender restroom-locker rooms.......there are some real thinkers running our government.  There are some real idiots that tell the thinkers how to make decisions.  Wow.  Pray.

This coming December I will have 10 years of sobriety.  A real miracle.  Unbelievable.   Lots of vodka was killing me.  I lost friends.  I lost family.  I lost interest in my business.  I lost all of these things.  Alcoholism robs people.  Life is taken away from us, greatly impacts others, and it does kill.

My son and daughter-in-law just a few days ago lost a close friend to alcoholism.  A young teacher that lost her life to this disease.  It is so sad to hear these stories.  It does not have to be this way.  All this person needed was a support network and daily visits to AA meetings.  Never never never give up on an alcoholic.  You may save their life.  Believe it.

AA has been saving lives for over 80 years, and it is the only way an alcoholic can beat this disease.  An alcoholic will die at some point, due to alcoholism, if their disease goes untreated.  I am so passionate about this.  AA everyday is saving my life. And I am thankful.  If you have a friend or family member that is having trouble with alcohol, confront them in a very loving way, and help them get treatment.  Do not enable them, and, for yourself, attend Al-Anon meetings to get educated.  Be relentless when dealing with friends or family that have alcohol problems.  If you do not, you will lose them.  It can be treated!

And, by the way, I have regained, and surpassed, a great life due to my AA program.  It is because of God that this program has worked for me.  God answered a simple prayer....."God, I need help"..... is all I prayed.  Four days later I was in a treatment center in Kirkland Washington. An intervention put me there, and I have not had a desire to drink since.  A miracle.  Oh yes - miracle.

I will do another post soon.  It feels good to put words down.  Thanks.     TomG

Monday, May 16, 2016

Good Music

If you want some good music......Google 'John Illsley on Youtube'.   Enjoy.  He played bass guitar in Dire Straits......I just found him as a solo artist.  Very Good.

Lets talk later.       TomG

Saturday, October 4, 2014

Isn't this the most fun you have ever had!

I just got my blogger thing back after having to buy a new computer.  Old one crashed.  My smarter than me son showed me how to get to my blog post area of the inter web.  I do not understand how computers work, but I mowed lots of lawns and never needed to know how those machines, and the engines worked. Just pull the cord and the dang thing starts.  I love mowing in a downpour because all my neighbors, that I don't know, spy through their windows at me thinking I'm crazy.  I love pretending being crazy in a nice way.  Back to my son helping me navigate the Internet......Google Chrome was mixed in there somehow.

Before I go further, I must share that my youngest grandson, Silas, in Nampa Idaho, was just diagnosed with some heart problems, and will have to have open heart surgery in 2 to 4 weeks...at Children's Hospital in Seattle.  My wife Chris, has been in Idaho, helping our daughter, her husband, and 3 other beautiful grand kids.  Silas has been in the hospital for the last 4 or 5 days getting checkups, and getting strong, anticipating this surgery.  Please pray for Silas, and his family, and the staff at Children's Hospital.  Thank you all.  To be continued......

So, it has been about ten days since I started this post......first 2 paragraphs......computer crash and grandson Silas.  Silas is still in Nampa Idaho with family waiting for the doctors at Children's Hospital in Seattle to schedule his surgery. Silas is a cool little guy, not even a year old.  He knows how to smile, and he has no idea about his frail little body.  He only knows love from his family.  Hard to describe the Tersieff family other than they give God all of the glory.  And they pray everyday....prayer of thanks.  Simply amazing family.

Hey out-of-towners....it is raining today here in Seattle.  You would not like it.  So, go to the sun in Arizona. And remember, we are the World Champion Seattle Seahawks.  A virtual pasting of the Denver Broncos.
Those Broncos really stunk it up in New Jersey.

Sheesh.......fast forward to today:  October 10, 2014.  I have neglected my posts, you, and sharing.
Update.....Silas is now very healthy.  He had his open heart surgery 5 months ago, and came out with a new, healthy, repaired, heart.  Very talented and dedicated staff at Children's Hospital in Seattle and are we blessed! Silas is getting stronger and stronger each day.  He has gained weight, travels like crazy in his walker/scooter, and smiles and laughs about 95% of the time.  Chris and I will be spending Thanksgiving dinner over in Nampa next month with Silas and family.....and.....our son, Todd, daughterinlaw Stephanie, and our grandson Trey.  Trey just a little over 2 years old and a great little guy.  Loves learning and doing and running and wondering.  Treys specialty today is the sounds of cars, trucks, and motorcycles, not to mention horns and sirens.  Whoa baby Trey!  Good sounds!

Heading off to Ellensburg Washington today for a wedding reception.  Daughter of a high school buddy.....we used to drink a lot of beer together then, but that is a whole different sotry.....It is about a 2 hour drive over the Cascade mountains in Washington State.  In about 5 weeks we will have to have studded tires on our car to make that same drive....winter is on it's way.  Brrrrrrr.

Lovely sunny day here in Redmond Washington.....going to be about 70 out, but for all you that are thinking about moving here to enjoy our outdoors, indoors, activities, way of life, happiness, and just general good stuff, beware, it will rain very hard and the wind will appear from nowhere.  It will be miserable.  You wont like it here.  MMMMMMMMM.

I will try and do more posts more often now that I have this great new laptop....take care.

TYL.      tomg